Navigating the Turbulence of Social Media Attacking
In the world of fitness, I humbly find myself amidst a journey of both triumphs and trials, serving as a guiding light for others. As a woman gym owner, I've encountered moments of doubt and skepticism, yet my purpose remains steadfast: to ignite greatness in others and cultivate a community of empowerment.
Understanding the Challenges
Breaking through stereotypes in a traditionally male-dominated industry hasn't been without its hurdles. I've faced doubts about my knowledge, strength, and leadership capabilities…I am criticized for caring about relationships vs treating my members like a number…I am hated for pushing people out of their comfort zone solely to see them become a better version of themselves…I have been told I was racist for not saying hello to a person….I was told I created a cult and wanted to poison people. I was told I was a crackhead, drug dealer who had zero class. I was told I stole money from people by placing their clients they abandoned with another trainer who would give them their all.
I was told I was rude, mean, ugly, fat, unprofessional, and evil. I was told that I was selfish for having to use one of the rooms in my gym to have my baby sleep in while trying to run a business when I should have used that as the daycare room ... .I was merely trying to survive being a new mom and business owner. I was trying to keep my doors open with a newborn, women attacking me on social media and many other things. I was told I was a crackhead about 5 times postpartum due to quote on quote losing weight so quickly after my daughter. All I wanted to do was try to figure out how to become a new mom during the hardest season of owning a business.
I was brutally attacked on social media for 14 days straight for hosting the 75 hard challenge that Andy Frisella created….I love Andy, look up to him, love his messages and as any human would you want to promote and encourage something that once helped you to help others.
I was told I was emotional yet intimidating…I was told I was caring but aggressive…I have been chronically judged, attacked, and talked about……and sadly it was by almost all women…and many of them mothers. I was judged multiple times for not saying hello….
I have had people tell me my daughter was ugly…calling her the c word. I have had people tell me she is ugly, not a cute kid…
I have had my clothing brand ideas stolen, my slogans, my designs, my statements, my challenges, my hair style, my dress style, my identity…Being inspired is okay, but stealing is not.
….I have had a stalker, a mean one who also harassed ones I love….…I have had people continually try to break my spirit….. They still do…All for what??? Truly….All for what?
Haters will always exist ... .their negativity and sadness has been baffling and as a future women in business yourself you will feel the same, but what we must remember is WE ARE IN A WHOLE DIFFERENT GAME THAN THEM.
They thrive on fighting and hating, but me and you we fight for kindness, love, compassion and for everyone to win.
My light, your light, it truly shines, it casts shadows that lead you to a deeper sense of self.
I am allowed to have it all…you are allowed to have it all. LET THEM HATE!
The reason I have never brought attention to any of this is I have always refused to carry the victim mindset. I have always fought to maintain strength and resilience….
Behind closed doors I felt sad, broken and hurt by how mean people were and could be. I have never claimed to be perfect….I have had moments of pure and utter failure as a person. I have made so many mistakes as a business owner, mom, wife, friend and person ... .but never have I had an ill intention for anyone. I cried and was deeply, deeply hurt. I have created multiple layers of protection and have been working hard for 4 years to pull them off in order to reconnect my soul back into my purpose.
I had no other choice, but to keep going….I could not justs sit there and allow them to slow my purpose…I had a new baby…I had a business…I had people who relied on me and in this season…. My team and staff were also hurt by all this. It was not just me who was hurt…My husband, my trainers, my members…my Rock Steady Crew. When you talked badly about me, my business and my space you also talked badly about the place they make their money….a place that helps seniors with Parkinson's Disease fight back against the disease.
I sat there and prayed, prayed and prayed and kept asking myself…how could I do and be better. I always believe these situations are a time of self reflection and growth…..I always strive to be better everyday.
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Turning Challenges into Strengths
Despite these obstacles, I've strived to foster a positive environment within my gym—a haven of encouragement and growth. Sharing my vision and passion for exceeding expectations has allowed me to sway skeptics into allies. Education also plays a pivotal role, equipping clients with the tools to view challenges as opportunities for personal advancement. This whole situation encouraged me to want to help the people who did this to me…and do this to me…I want to give them the chance to live with love and happiness vs self hate. I wanted to show people you are worthy and can do it too.
Strategies to Keep Your Spirit Unbroken
Remaining connected to my 'why' sustains my resolve in the face of adversity. Surrounding myself with positivity—fellow entrepreneurs, mentors, and friends—has proven invaluable along this journey. Each small victory serves as a reminder of the profound impact I'm privileged to make. Prioritizing self-care ensures that I maintain the resilience necessary to thrive amidst challenges. Every day I had to remind myself what my purpose was….and how that was more powerful than the devil.
Conclusion: A Journey of Empowerment
As a woman gym owner, my role transcends mere business management—it's a calling to inspire transformation and foster greatness in others. Despite the hurdles and occasional negativity, the impact I impart upon my clients is immeasurable. Together, we're reshaping resistance into resilience, and critics into champions of their own success.I wanted to show people that you can keep going no matter what. You can keep achieving your goals when the devil comes for you hard.
Stay Divine,
Amanda Fritscher
